Last weekend Devin and I were enjoying a favorite show of ours ‘Mountain Men‘. Watching the show is obviously something we like to do, but more than that, we love the commercial breaks. During that time we get to pick apart what we just saw, make jokes about what ridiculous things our least favorite men said, and talk about the smart techniques we just saw from the seasoned men. One of the wise men we really like, Rich Lewis from southwestern Montana, a big cat hunter, said something that really made us think. He talked about death and said that he really wouldn’t mind if a cougar got him one of these days and dragged him up a tree. He thought that would be a quick and fitting death, and he didn’t seem one bit phased by the thought of it. It was just shocking yet refreshing for something so significant to be so plain and simple. He accepts death for what it is. He doesn’t fight the idea of it, yet he loves his life and wants to live as long as he’s allowed. That made a new connection for me. I think people who accept death for what it is, and don’t hide from the idea- are happier people. Here’s why.
Being comfortable with the thought of death means a person knows their place in life. People are put here for a reason, they are to live to fulfill whatever that reason is, and then die. For some it means they go to a place they’ve hoped for their entire lives, and for others it means they just go to nothingness. Regardless, it means a person’s current life ceases to exist, and the person is relived from all pain and suffering. It puts a person at peace to know how things work, and to not panic over the inevitable. A lack of stress improves living quality.
Understanding death means understanding a person’s time is finite. Understanding that time is finite means the person understands they need to tidy up the loose ends in their life, such as, apologizing to those they have wronged, and internally forgiving those who have wronged them. Doing so rids the person of built up stress and grudges, and let’s the person live a more freeing life.
Realizing the need to apologize & forgive just solidifies the idea that people are important to one another. Realizing one another’s importance means a greater appreciation for one another, and typically means that time spent together is highly valued, and often done more often. Not only this, but they also have a tendency to tell their loved ones how significant and loved they are. This makes for safer and more loving dynamics in all relationships, which improves living quality. There is no more “I’ll wait for her to apologize first” or “I just don’t feel like being the bigger person today“- there’s just “today is all I have, and I better do this while I still can“. It’s better to do it now than to sit around and dwell on what needs to be done. Which brings on my next point.
When a person who accepts death is alone, they have a tendency to reminisce on good memories. Deciding to be alone with a person’s feel good thoughts instead of involved with the world is so relaxing and beneficial. It’s much better to be alone with happy thoughts, than to quietly stress, feel angry, anxious, or the need to find entertainment (such as draining social media or watch discouraging TV shows). Time is better utilized, and the brain is used for more healthy work.
People who accept death for what it is better understand life itself, and are at peace with it. They don’t take their time, memories, or their loved ones, for granted. They know their place, they don’t fight what they can’t win, stress what they can’t fix, or hold unhealthy feelings close to their hearts. They are happier and healthier people, because they know and understand death. So instead of worrying, fighting, or trying to control what you can’t control- take advantage of the time you do have, take quality over quantity, and love the people around you harder.
What are your thoughts on understanding death? Is it healthy or stressful? Comment below! As always, thank you for reading!